Monday, April 30, 2007
For most mothers, when their little girl is picked to be someone’s flower girl for their wedding, the honor of being chosen is quickly replaced with the terror that their little angel will ruin the whole ceremony. Will she be good, stand still, run around like a banshee while screaming at the top of her lungs? The best thing to calm mom’s and the flower girl’s nerves is to be prepared. Here are some tips.
You want to make sure and talk with your daughter in advance about what is expected of her. Bring it up on occasion so that she can get used to the idea. It is also beneficial to purchase the flower girl dress in advance to leave time for any alterations. Just a tip: shopping for flower girl dresses at department stores is a nightmare for every mother I have ever talked to. Most mothers find the best flower girl dress choices at reputable online vendors such as SophiasStyle.com. Make sure that the dress fits the flower girl comfortably before the wedding.
The flower girl should definitely be present for rehearsal so that she can practice her duties. Flower girls usually walk directly in front of the bride in the processional and in front of the maid of honor in the recessional. If your daughter is younger, it may be best to have her come and sit with the family after she walks down the aisle. If she is older she may stand near the bridesmaids during the wedding ceremony.
On the day of the wedding, I recommend making light of the flower girl’s responsibilities as a whole. If you continue to harp on what she is supposed to do, she may get nervous and act out. By this time, she knows what is expected. Ask her if she needs any reminders and then let things unfold. Also, no sugar before the wedding!
When the bride chose your daughter to be her flower girl, she knew her age and level of capabilities, so try not to stress if she doesn’t do things exactly as you would have her do. Little girls will be little girls, whether they are in flower girl dresses or jeans. So if your little girl freezes or starts running around, grab her hand and lead her quickly to your seat. I can guarantee that you won’t have the first, or last, flower girl gone wild! Just prepare the best you can, and everything will work out fine!
Categories: Flower Girl and Special Occasion
Monday, April 23, 2007
The best advice that I have come across as far as 1st birthday planning is to make sure and plan around naptime. For my daughter’s first birthday, we planned a lunch without taking into account the fact that she eats early and naps from eleven to one or two. She was very unhappy towards the end and I had to put her down to sleep before she got a chance to open her gifts. In my case, afternoon or early evening would have worked better for her schedule. It’s a good idea to keep the party under two hours, regardless, as babies tend to get overwhelmed if it goes much longer than that.
You can find a barrage of first birthday party themes and ideas in party stores and online. We went with a Baby Einstein theme and dressed my little girl in the cutest birthday dress and princess birthday hat from SophiasStyle baby girl clothing store. Finger foods usually work well if you are serving food, especially for little ones!
The highlight of 1st birthdays is often the cake. If you mention that the cake is for a first birthday party when you order it from the baker, oftentimes they will throw in a tiny cake just for the birthday girl or boy to tear into. Make sure that you have your camera ready for this, moms & dads. These are the pictures that will be fun to pull out in the teen years.
First birthday gifts can range from cute baby clothes to toys. Riding toys are a very popular gift, as are imagination toys. It is a good idea to keep in mind the main thing that you have learned from your baby’s first year of life – babies are unpredictable. Keep things casual and low-maintenance for your child’s first birthday so that you and baby can enjoy and celebrate their special day.
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
When a mother has a new baby, she pictures herself falling in love immediately with the tiny bundle of joy. The hours of strenuous labor melt away as she holds and coos at the infant and imagines the endless joy that will result from being a new parent. But in reality, attachment to a newborn doesn’t always happen immediately. Pregnancy is stressful, and labor is definitely no walk in the park. The outcome is an exhausted and stressed out mother that has a newborn baby that needs almost constant care. Attachment to your baby may not come as naturally as you like…and that’s okay. But, there are some tips that may help you along.
Breastfeeding is a wonderful way to form healthy baby attachment. If breastfeeding is not for you, then make sure that you hold your baby close and give them plenty of eye contact while feeding them. Eye contact is your newborn’s first experience with communication. Speaking of communication, talk and read to your baby. Play games such as patty-cake and peek-a-boo. Communication is the beginning of understanding and trust for infants and is very important for their development…and your motherly development as well.
Another trick is to use a sling or baby front carrier when doing things around the house. Touching and closeness are both extremely important in your babies’ healthy growth and development.
Remember that being a new mother is exhausting. You will not be able to finish the same amount of housework and errands that you were able to complete before you gave birth for some time. Give yourself a break and try some time savers. Shop online for baby girl clothes. Take the help that your mother-in-law offers. Quiet the inner neat freak that can aggravate exhaustion and make bonding more difficult.
Keep in mind that forming an attachment to your baby is both a complex and personal experience…and it may take time. If you are careful to make sure that your infants basic needs are met, then he or she won’t suffer if the bond takes a little extra time to form. If you find that you are still struggling by the time you take your infant to their first well-baby check-up, discuss it with the doctor. You may be suffering from postpartum depression, which is absolutely treatable and more common than you may realize.
Having a newborn baby can be a wonderful and joyous occasion, but everyone’s experience is different. You just have to find what works best for you and your baby. One of the best things that you can do for your own sanity is talk to other new mothers about their feelings and experiences. It’s encouraging to know that there is a world full of other imperfect mothers out there just like us…just doing their best!